February 14 ------ Keeping the romance alive in a marriage takes effort, commitment and a willingness to adapt to life’s ever-changing dynamics especially when kids enter the picture. For these artists, love isn’t just about grand gestures; it’s in the little things, the daily choices and the shared experiences that keep their marriages strong. John Prats, TJ Monterde, Louie Ocampo, Ogie Alcasid and National Artist Ryan Cayabyab share their thoughts on love, partnership and making sure their relationships don’t lose their spark — even after years together.
From simple acts like making coffee every morning to keeping the playfulness alive through flirtation, here’s what works for them:
John Prats: “You really have to put in the work and you have to keep the fire burning, especially when you have kids. Because unconsciously we’ve realized this and we’ve experienced this yung attention pala namin masyado naka-focus dun (the kids). “Eventually, napag-usapan namin yan. Nagkaroon pa ng tampuhan kasi hindi ko na siya masyado nalalambing because when I go home, I go straight to the kids. And I have to be really conscious with that.
“Tapos ako pala may bubog ako na parang, ‘Dati pinagtitimpla mo ako kape.’ Mga maliliit lang pero ngayon hindi na kasi (sabi niya), ‘Paano? I have to do this every morning.’ So, you have to make adjustments really. “But special pa rin yung Valentine’s Day because you might say it’s cheesy, but mga girls talaga they expect something to celebrate that day (laughs). “Like my wife, she’s very conservative, and she also grew up in the province, she’s also a daddy’s girl so very spoiled na parang yung love ng dad niya sa kanya, yun ang kailangan kong punuan talaga kasi sobrang close niya sa daddy niya.”
TJ Monterde: “Every day is Valentine’s Day. That’s why this Valentine’s, we’re working. We have shows (laughs). Also on Feb. 15, we have shows para may pang-gastos kami sa 16th. Sa 16 na kami mag-se-celebrate. “We’re five years married this August. I wanna celebrate more milestones, of course, with KZ. I want to bring up the bridge in Palagi because it talks about that the milestones and anniversaries that we want to celebrate... I’m looking forward to those anniversaries. “(About the little things that I do to keep the romance alive) I make her coffee every day. Simple things. Si KZ kunwari, nauuna kasi ako nagigising, tapos baba na ako, then she will message me, ‘I’m awake.’ Tatakbo ako sa taas, susunduin ko siya, ganun ka-simple na mga bagay.”
Louie Ocampo: “No. 1, I love my wife. No. 2, I love my wife. No. 3, I love my family. I’m a family man. I was brought up old school style. When I got married, my parents said, ‘Pinasukan mo yan, tapusin mo yan.’ Every day is not romance, it’s really a partnership and I love every minute of it.”
Ryan “Mr. C” Cayabyab: “What keeps the flame going, etc.? That is really the core — kailangan mahal mo wife mo, kailangan mahal mo yung partner mo. “At the same time, alam lahat yan ng mga couples that it’s not all smooth-sailing, there’s always challenges, that’s true, but what I learned from my marriage through the years are these key, important words — you have to learn patience, tolerance, understanding and acceptance. You have to accept everything na pinasok mo dahil nag-promise ka dun sa wedding. “You have to accept what your partner is, and hopefully, always hopefully pray that it is a commitment for both of you. So far, it is. That’s why it lasts forever. We know that even if there are problems, keeping it together until we die is the goal.”
Ogie Alcasid: “Hindi bawal lumandi. Kasama yun eh… Kayo pa mga babae, kayo ang magaling dyan. Napapaikot niyo nga kami at diyan kami mahina. Sabi ko nga sa asawa ko, ‘Ikaw ang kahinaan ko and kalakasan ko.’ “Flirting is something very healthy. (Oo) we still flirt. Alam mo ba, minsan sinasabi ko sa kanya, pwede ba kunwari classmate kita (laughs)? Or, kunwari magkasama kami, magkayakap, (I tell her) kunwari nag-camping tayo, tapos, kumulog and then kunwari natakot ka (laughs) “So, it never stops. Ngayon ang pinagka-busy-han talaga namin is going on walks. I realized because we’re walking together always for an hour and a half, ang dami naming napag-usapan. So I said, why don’t we vlog about the things that we talk about while walking? “And it has generated a lot of really, really great comments from couples and people who want to be romanticized and romanced. It’s nice, it’s a good feeling we’re able to inspire others that way. Again, it never ends the romancing between husband and wife.”
Source: philstar.com
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